Do you have an Alter Ego? As in - an alternative personality which you put on when you show up at work?
Do you leave who you really are at the coat rack by the door?
I sure have done that often enough.
And why? - Because somehow, on some level, I thought that showing up as myself wasn’t enough. That somehow I had to present something - or someone - else: and that someone was generally someone who was trouble free, more competent and less passionate than the real me.
Kinda like the ‘PC’ version of myself.
Because - let’s face it - we all have our darker sides. And none of us are perfect. Who the hell are we kidding??
I believe what happens when we leave the beautiful mess that is our life by the door is that we lose so much of the dimensionality of life. If we show up as someone who’s in control, hasn’t got any problems, knows everything and - at the end of the day - doesn’t really CARE: What sort of decisions are we going to make?
Because it’s not like this is something you’re just putting on for others.
Wearing your Alter Ego does something with your head.
You actually forget - temporarily - about all those other aspects of yourself - the feeling, wondering, humble, curious, messy parts of yourself.
And it will influence what you do.
But not only that - you’re at the same time role-modelling for everyone else around you, and can they PLEASE do the same and focus on the matter at hand and don’t bother us with their insecurity?? Or the fact that they, indeed, are not perfect either.
Because, honestly, when I’m in this state, I can’t cope with that. It’s tearing down my walls. Can’t have it.
What if we did this differently?
Don’t get me wrong: I think having the ability to slip into an “Alter Ego” is a wonderful and useful thing - if it is to do with making a conscious choice about your state and who you want to be.
Because we do have the ability to create WHO WE ARE and - most of all - to choose WHO WE BECOME.
But if our ‘Alter Ego’ is principally a consequence of our beliefs around what is ‘appropriate’ and our fear of somehow not being enough - we’re in trouble. And so are those around us. And so is our planet.
Because somehow we’re going to be projecting all of this crap all over the place.
So let’s at least be conscious about it.
If there is such a thing as “PC” - some sort of societal consensus about what is appropriate and what not - let’s make it something that best serves us as the amazing complex human beings we are - and the planet around us.
Let’s make our messiness, our compassion, our vulnerability, our love, our passion part of that persona. Let’s start making decisions with not just our head (that’s an illusion anyway) - let’s make them with our gut, our heart and our soul.
And let’s open up. Do you really think that your fellow travellers around you are buying that ‘invincible superhero’ crap? Don’t you think they sense in the way you walk that you actually shouldn’t be here today? Don’t you think they know you’re lying?
If we bring our human-ness back into our lives, we may start accessing our compassion for others on a more regular basis. And as we strengthen our muscles for FEELING for ourselves, with and for others - we may start feeling for our world again.
And we may stop cold on the way back into the building to watch the bees on the flower heads and realize the beauty and treasures of our world. And we may be mesmerized for a moment and sit and ponder. And then go back and tell the others and light their day up with that beauty.
And we may take a moment to contribute to the life of another struggling soul near us - and we actually may make things a bit better.
So when you’re creating your Alter Ego - think whether you’re creating a model of the beautiful, multi-faceted, caring and passionate human you can want to populate this earth - or whether you’re creating a monster.
Because being the best possible version of yourself is not just about you. It’s about all of us and generations to come.
Travel well my friends xx