When you look around our world today it's almost easy to believe that our happiness and fulfillment will arrive in the package with our latest gadget, tossed into the bag along with the purchase receipt or maybe it'll just magically appear when finally we just wear those new shoes.
At least I'd say there is an undeniable attempt out there to make us believe that our happiness somehow correlates with - stuff.
Do you know those days when by 11am you’re starting to feel like life is out to get you? And onto knock number one piles knock number two piles knock number three and all of that on a day when you’re feeling your most weak, vulnerable and doubtful to start with? Those days where you find yourself doubting that things could ever be good for any length of time, at all?
Again and again I hear people speaking about the disconnect in our communities. Their feeling of lack in that regard, and their loneliness. Which seems so bloody odd considering the fact that we supposedly live in the most connected world of all times. But, I guess, the glow of a screen at night is not what keeps you warm.
The question on my mind then is - what would it take?
Do you have an Alter Ego? As in - an alternative personality which you put on when you show up at work?
Do you leave who you really are at the coat rack by the door?
I sure have done that often enough.
And why? - Because somehow, on some level, I thought that showing up as myself wasn’t enough. That somehow I had to present something - or someone - else: and that someone was generally someone who was trouble free, more competent and less passionate than the real me.
“There’s a psychological term for that - it’s not ‘insanity’ - what was it?”
Sometimes naming things makes them real. I came acrossthis articleyesterday (you’ll find the link on my facebook page) which talked about ‘pre-traumatic stress disorder’ (would the acronym still be PTSD?) It is a phenomenon which climate scientists have been experiencing recently when contemplating the global implications of their findings. Things, indeed, are looking worse every day and the overwhelm, grief, anxiety these scientists are feeling apparently causes them to call in sick on the odd day.
If you’re one of those people who made New Year’s resolutions, chances are that you fall into the 67% of people who have given up / forgotten about them by mid January. It’s honestly that many. So chances are by now you’ve forgotten that you even HAD some New Year’s resolutions - and hopefully stopped feeling guilty about not sticking with them as well, because guilt is a pretty useless feeling.